To get it right, you have to surrender to the possibility of getting it wrong.

Last year, in the wake of an unexpected breakup, I was talking with a friend who was equally surprised by a breakup of her own.

“Doesn't it make it so hard to want to open up again?” She asked.

“Nope.”

Sure, I needed time and space to grieve, and fully release that relationship. And when it was time, wading back into the dating pool was not without it’s discomfort… But I never regretted opening up to someone who ultimately broke my trust and my heart, and I never, even for a second, considered the possibility of not being able to open up to someone again.

I was “all in” in my last relationship, so absolutely, the break up left me devastated. But it is only by going all in do we afford ourselves the opportunity to see what really sticks; What is really for us, and what we are truly capable of.

Whether it’s listening to your intuition, owning your desires, moving to a new city, starting a new relationship or occupation, if you still have one foot ashore, that's the only data you’ll have- What works (or doesn’t) when you show up 95%.

Of course, I’m not saying you should toss yourself at any and every opportunity that comes your way. But, if your gut says “yes”, and the only thing that's standing in your way is fear... Fear of being hurt, of looking silly, of getting it wrong…

You only playing yourself.

At some point in order to know if it's truly yours, you have to leap.